I feel scared for my girls, I worry about how they will cope as teenagers and I am constantly infuriated by the medias perception of how women and young girls should look these days.
There is so much emphasis on beauty and the need to look a certain way and it makes me feel very sad and anxious about what our children will be faced with in years to come.
A few months ago I watched a 'vlog' by Travis We The Kings where his wife (Jenny) was talking to their newborn daughter. They were telling her she was kind, gentle, loving and beautiful. They went on to explain that they wanted their daughter to always know that there is so much more to her than just beauty, and that she is beautiful both inside and out.
I I loved this, and from that moment on I made a conscious effort everyday to tell my girls how wonderful they are and tell them the things that I love the most, alongside the fact that I think they are beautiful.
This is has become habit for me now and it's something I do/say without thinking.
Yesterday on the train, Frankie was being playful. She was giggling and belly laughing whilst we took selfies to send to daddy. She elbowed me and said "give it up mummy". We laughed so hard and I soaked up the prescious, lovely moments we were sharing. Even strangers on the train caught her infection giggle.
I leant over to Frankie, kissed her forehead and said "I just love every inch of you, my gorgeous girl.."
"Oh but mummy, I am so much more than just a gorgeous girl. I am your kind girl, your gentle girl, I have beautiful sharing, I have a loving heart, I am a strong girl, I am your clever girl, and I am also your beautiful girl."
With tears in my eyes, and a heart so full of pride I said "yes my sweet girl, you are all of those wonderful things and more".
At 3 years old, Frankie knows her self worth. She understands that she has so many awesome traits to her other than just beauty.
My heart is so full. I hope you always see past just the beauty my sweet, caring, kind, strong, independent girl.
Frankie, you rock.
Your very proud Mommy